A New Year Check-In for Couples: Reflect, Reset, Reconnect
As we begin a new year, we have a great opportunity to reflect, check in, examine our shared values, and evaluate our relationship. We also have an opportunity to develop goals and plans for the next 12 months. Basically, the new year gives us an opportunity to reset some areas of our relationship while also continuing to build on other areas.
So, where should you start?
1. Reflect on the Past Year
First, I recommend reflecting on the past year. What were some highlights of the year? What can you celebrate? What went well? What were some challenges you faced? How did you work through those challenges?
What are the things you want to leave behind in your relationship, and what are the things you want to carry forward in the new year?
2. Check In With Each Other
Second, check in with each other. How is your partner doing mentally, physically, and emotionally? How are you doing?
3. Reflect on Your Shared Values
Third, reflect on your values. What are the shared values that keep you grounded as a couple? How do they show up in your life together?
What areas do you see a gap in and know are growth areas for you as a couple?
4. Notice Where You Are Right Now
Fourth, how is your relationship right now? Do you feel close and deeply connected? Do you feel some distance?
If you do feel close, what has helped you to maintain that depth of connection? If you feel distant from each other, what obstacles are in the way, and what can you do to remove them going forward?
Moving Forward Together
With these key reflections, you will have an opportunity to let go of what hasn’t worked and what was challenging. You will also have the opportunity to establish a strong foundation for moving forward together.
And, if you need some help working through these questions and conversations, we are here for you.
Ready to Get Support?
If you and your partner want help navigating these conversations or feel stuck in distance, conflict, or disconnection, Sparrow Counseling is here to help. To get started, follow these three simple steps:
Reach out to Sparrow Counseling for a free 15-minute consultation.
Learn more about our caring, experienced couples counselors.
Take the next step toward a stronger, more connected relationship.
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Written by David Teel, ALC, a therapist at Sparrow Counseling who works with couples seeking stronger connection, clearer communication, and healthier patterns of relating. David brings a calm, thoughtful presence to the therapy room, helping partners slow down, understand one another more deeply, and navigate conflict with empathy and intention. He is trained in the Gottman Method and integrates relational, evidence-based approaches to support meaningful change.
