Say “yes” to your life partner is a big deal!

Choosing your partner for life is a huge decision!  Some of your family and friends may like your partner but you wonder how objective they are.  You dream of pursuing a life together, having children, and growing old together.  Is this the one?

Maybe you have already been married before and that did not work out!  You never want to go through another bad break-up or even worse divorce again! 

You know you need to improve how you relate… 

You also know that you have picked up some dysfunctional patterns from your family that you don’t want to see played out in your marriage.  Maybe you are a people pleaser that just tries to go with the flow but then gets full of resentment and blows after holding it in too long.  Perhaps you have never really let yourself blow because you are too afraid your partner will run for hills and then you will be all alone…again.  Or maybe you are so self-protective that you are going to make sure your voice is heard with everything because you didn’t do that in the past relationship, but you realize that is just making you sound…mean.

You don’t think you fight fair…and want better tools

When conflict arises, you find yourself either heading straight into the fight or running like hell to get out, clean it up and avoid conflict at all costs. 

You realize that it may be wise to have an objective, trained professional help you walk through this decision together.  You want someone to point out your blind spots.  You want someone to challenge you and how you both relate, so you can make the best decision possible.  You want to grow.  And learn more about you and how you relate to others especially the one you are thinking of marrying!

Sparrow counseling can help!

As marriage and family therapists, we are trained to look at the whole system you have set up in your relationships to help you better understand how you relate.  We love helping couples walk through this HUGE decision-making process.

We have a great test, just for you!

Also, we love to use a tool called PREPARE/ENRICH.   This is an assessment tool that has been around since the 1970s.  PREPARE/ENRICH is a solid research-based skill-building program that gives couples a relationship inventory. The test helps them see their strengths and growth areas. They assisted millions of couples over the last 30 years, and are the number one premarital inventory and couples assessment tool.  The main component of the program is an online survey people complete in about 30-45 minutes. We will meet with you to provide feedback, help you understand the results as well as hone in on important relationship skills that need attention.

PREPARE/ENRICH will help you:

  • Identify strength and growth areas

  • Explore personality traits

  • Strength communication skills

  • Resolve conflicts and reduce stress

  • Compare family backgrounds

  • Comfortably discuss financial issues

  • Establish personal, couple and family goals

PREPARE/ENRICH assesses these areas of your relationship:

  • 12 Relationship Scales- communication, conflict resolution, roles, sexuality, finances, spiritual beliefs and more

  • 5 SCOPE Personality Scales

  • 4 A couple and Family Scales---based on Circumplex Model

  • 4 Relationship Dynamic Scales

If you are interested in taking the next step, to have a trained professional walk you through deciding if your partner is right for you, call us for a 15-minute free consultation to discover how a plan and the right therapist, can make the difference in this huge decision. Click here to sign up for a free consultation.

Other Services Sparrow Counseling Offers

At Sparrow Counseling we offer in-person and online therapy in the state of Alabama. We specialize in co-parenting counseling, reunification therapy, blended family counseling, divorce & family mediation, discernment counseling, individual counseling, teen counseling, grief counseling, and anxiety therapy in Birmingham, Alabama. Let us aid you in healing broken relationship patterns that keep you from finding, creating, and keeping healthy relationships with partners, friends, and family. Learn more by checking out our FAQs and Blog!

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